happiness involves the enthusiastic and unambivalent acceptance of activities or relationships that are not the best that might possibly be obtained.
— Philip Brickman
Accept and adapt.
Acceptance of self
If you cannot accept yourself, you will look at yourself through a warped lens. You will have blind spots and be in denial of things you don’t want to see.
What we wish to be true clouds are perception of what is true. Suffering is the moment when we can no longer deny reality.
— Naval
Non-acceptance/non-forgiveness of your own mistakes is what results in blame shifting.
Acceptance of others
If you claim to love someone, are you accepting them as they are? Or do you only accept them as someone who can change into what you want? Do you love them or their potential?
related: respect, compassion